1) What's the best sexual position for pleasing my girlfriend?
Asked by Henry K. from Kansas City, MO

There is no one sexual position that works for every woman. My favorite position could be one that another woman finds boring, and vice versa. Unfortunately, there is no easy answer to this question, and you have to get to know what your girlfriend likes and the easiest ways for her to have an orgasm. I wish you luck!

2) One of my best female friends is all over me when we go out drinking. Is she really into me, or is it the booze?
Asked by Alex O. from Mesa, AZ

I wouldn't look too far into her affection that comes out when she is drinking, unless she is becoming more affectionate around you when sober. Alcohol makes a lot of people very affectionate, and since you two are so close to begin with this means you may get the brunt of it. If it gets to the point where you feel uncomfortable just talk to her about it.

3) My girlfriend recently caught me watching porn. She says it makes her makes her feel inadequate. What should I do?
Asked by Vince L. from Sanford, NC

You should have a serious talk with your girlfriend and find out why porn makes her feel inadequate. She should feel more secure in your relationship. Porn doesn't mean you aren't satisfied with your girlfriend, and it definitely doesn't mean you are less attracted to your girlfriend. The movies she inevitably watches with prince charming, who does and says everything right, doesn't make you feel inadequate. So why should a porn make her feel that way? They are just movies, and that is something she needs to realize.

4) I was just invited to a raunchy bachelor party for my best friend. I don't dig the strip club scene because morally I have issues with it. I also don't want to skip out on my pal on his special night. What's the best solution?
Asked by Patrick O. from Fresno, CA

It is honorable that you aren't into the strip club scene, but this is your best friend's bachelor party! The best solution in this case would be to go out and celebrate with your best friend. It is not a night to care where you are going or whether going to a strip club fits into your morals. It is a night to spend time with your best friend and make sure he has one hell of a good time. Going to the strip club doesn't mean that you have to get a lap dance or hop up on stage with the women. If the women come near you just make sure they know he is the bachelor and they will focus on him.

5) Despite it being such a heinous act in reality, why do so many women have a sexual fantasy about being raped?
Asked by Doug H. from Saginaw, MI

There is no doubt that rape is one of the worst things a woman can endure, yet it is a common fantasy. There are many differences between a rape fantasy and an actual rape. Many women have a fantasy of being dominated by their partner. It is our natural, animalistic behavior. In the wild, females will only mate with a male that can dominate her because she wants the strongest genes being passed to her children. She doesn't want some wimpy male that she can easily take down passing on his fragile genes, which will weaken her children and the species as a whole. Welcome to natural selection.

When a woman fantasizes about being raped, she doesn't fantasize about being attacked on her way to her car with some strange man beating the shit out of her and finally having his way with her. No! She fantasizes about her partner or an attractive man that she would have sex with anyway, and although it is a "rape" in her mind she is enjoying every second of it and doesn't leave with bruises or mental scars. Our fantasy of rape is nowhere near close to the actual act. Although we may imagine it as a rape we are with someone we trust and it is consensual in our minds. This fantasy does not mean that any woman wants to get raped or that any women secretly enjoy being raped.

6) My wife is now three months pregnant. How many more months into the pregnancy can my wife and I still safely have intercourse?
Asked by Carl P. from Toledo, OH

This is a question you should direct toward your OB/GYN because any abnormalities can lead to a different answer. In normal pregnancies, you can have intercourse up until your wife's water breaks. Of course, after she begins to show you will have to use positions that don't put force onto her abdomen.

7) My girlfriend recently wanted to include a vibrator in our sexual interludes. I'll be honest, the thing scares me. How can I possibly compete with a never-soft, always-pulsating opponent? Am I crazy to hope the C cell batteries wear out?
Asked by Harold B. from Las Vegas, NV

It doesn't make you crazy to feel threatened by a vibrator. It is understandable that some men would feel this way. However, there is no comparison between a vibrator and the real thing. If your girlfriend preferred the vibrator she would simply not have sex and use the vibrator. She may think that adding a toy will spice things up a bit in the bedroom. If you are uncomfortable, you should sit down and talk to her, and possibly suggest other things you can add. The most important thing in a relationship is communication with honesty. This is included when talking about sex in a relationship.